Matthew 10:35
in Matthew 10For I have come to turn ‘a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law.
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ASV
For I came to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law:
KJV
For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law.
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This verse in Matthew 10
Commentary
19 notes on this verse(Verse 35) For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; and a man's enemies will be those of his own household. This passage is written in almost the same words in the prophet Micah (Micah 7). And it should be noted whenever a testimony from the Old Testament is presented, whether the meaning alone or also the wording agrees.
This site's exposition
Do not assume that I have come to bring peace to the earth
on Matthew 10:34-36
A sword names the division His coming brings to households. To turn a man against his father, a daughter against her mother draws on Micah 7:6, a picture of family betrayal. The sword is the sword of decision, forcing a choice that peace at any price would avoid.
This site's exposition
a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law
Matthew Henry places the blame for this division on those who reject the gospel. The believer's faith condemns his kin's unbelief, and enmity follows. Jerome notes that the words are nearly Micah's own, and he urges readers to mark whether a citation gives the sense or the exact wording.
The record, by era
The Church Fathers5 voices
And so when we are renewed by the water of baptism through the power of the Word, we are separated from the sins and ancestors of our origin; we are cut away from the inordinate love of father and mother as if by an incision from God's sword, and we are divided from them. And as we shed our former self with its sins and unfaithfulness and are made new by the Spirit in mind and body, we will necessarily detest the habits of our old, inborn way of life.
The five inhabiting one house, whom He divides three against two, and two against three, we may explain thus; The three are the three parts of man, the body, the soul, and the will; for as the soul is bestowed in the body, so the will has power of using both in any way it chooses; and thence when a law is given it is given to the will. But this is only found in those who were first formed by God. By the sin and unbelief of the first parent, all the generations of men since have had sin for the father of their body, and unbelief for the mother of their soul. And as each man has his will within him, there are thus five in one house. When then we are renewed in the laver of baptism, by virtue of the word we are set apart from our original guilt, and severed, as it were, by the sword of God, from the lusts of this our father and mother, and thus there is great discord made in one house.
The Lord himself proclaims peace, which is why the apostle Paul also admonishes peace and says, "For he is our peace." This means, of course, the peace of those who believe and receive. But in what way does he not bring peace to the earth? …
These are almost the words of the Prophet Micah. (Mic. 7:6.) We should always take note when a passage is cited out of the Old Testament, whether the sense only, or the very words are given.
Wherefore neither with this was He satisfied, but unfolds also the very nature of the war, signifying it to be far more grievous even than a civil war; and He saith, "I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law." For not friends only, saith He, nor fellow citizens, but even kinsmen shall stand against one another, and nature shall be divided against herself. "For I am come," saith He, "to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law." That is, not merely among those of the same household is the war, but among those that are dearest, and extremely near to each other. And this more than anything signifies His power, that hearing these things, they both accepted Him, and set about persuading all others. Yet was it not He that did this: of course not: but the wickedness of the other sort: nevertheless He saith it is His own doing. For such is the custom of the Scripture. Yea, and elsewhere also He saith, "God hath given them eyes that they should not see:" and here He speaks in this way, in order that having, as I said before, exercised themselves in these words, they might not be confounded on suffering reproaches and insults. But if any think these things intolerable, let them be reminded of an ancient history. For in times of old also this came to pass, which thing especially shows the old covenant to be akin to the new, and Him who is here speaking, the same with the giver of those commands. I mean that in the case of the Jews also, when each had slain his neighbor, then He laid aside His anger against them; both when they made the calf, and when they were joined to Baal Peor. […]
11 more voices on this verse
The Church Fathers1 voice
(Quæst. in Matt. q. 3.) Otherwise; I am come to set a man against his father; for he renounces the Devil, who was his son; the daughter against her mother, that is, the people of God against the city of the world, that is, the wicked society of mankind, which is spoken of in Scripture under the names of Babylon, Egypt, Sodom, and other names. The daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law, that is, the Church against the Synagogue, which according to the flesh, brought forth Christ the spouse of the Church. They are severed by the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. And a man's foes are they of his household, those, that is, with whom he before lived as intimates.
The Medieval Church3 voices
(interlin.) Or connect it with what has gone before, As the fear of death ought not to draw you away, so neither ought carnal affection. (interlin.) Otherwise; He means, I am not come among men to strengthen their carnal affections, but to cut them off with the sword of the Spirit; whence it is rightly added, And a man's foes are they of his household.
But someone could say: You have come to separate. Between whom have you come? Was it not between distant persons and strangers? He shows that it was not, but between those most closely united. For, he says, I have come to set a man against …
"Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against …
The Puritans and the Awakening4 voices
10 ), and cruel work this sword made. Christ sent that gospel, which gives occasion for the drawing of this sword, and so may be said to send this sword; he orders his church into a suffering state for the trial and praise of his people's graces, and the filling up of the measure of their enemies' sins. [2.] Look not for peace, but division (
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), I am come to set men at variance. This effect of the preaching of the gospel is not the fault of the gospel, but of those who do not receive it. When some believe the things that are spoken, and others believe them not, the faith of those that believe condemns those that believe not, and, therefore, they have an enmity against them that believe.
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For I am come to set a man at variance against,.... Or "to divide a man from his father".
These things, though primarily intended for direction to the apostles, are of use to all Christ's ministers, with whom, by his word, Christ, and will be always to end the world.
The Nineteenth Century3 voices
I am come to set a man at variance - The spirit of Christ can have no union with the spirit of the world. Even a father, while unconverted, will oppose a godly child. Thus the spirit that is in those who sin against God is opposed to that spirit which is in the followers of the Most High. It is the spirits then that are in opposition, and not the persons.
In these verses the great head of the church winds up his first charge to those whom he sends forth to make known his Gospel. He declares three great truths, which form a fitting conclusion to the whole discourse. In the first place, he bids us remember that his Gospel will not cause peace and agreement wherever it comes.
In these verses the great head of the church winds up his first charge to those whom he sends forth to make known his Gospel. He declares three great truths, which form a fitting conclusion to the whole discourse. In the first place, he bids us remember that his Gospel will not cause peace and agreement wherever it comes. “I came not to send peace, but a sword”The object of his first coming on earth was not to set up a millennial kingdom in which all would be of one mind, but to bring in the Gospel, which would lead to strifes and divisions. We have no right to be surprised if we see this continually fulfilled: we are not to think it strange if the Gospel rends sunder families and causes estrangement between the nearest relations. It is sure to do so in many cases, because of the deep corruption of man’s heart. So long as one man believes, and another remains unbelieving, so long as one is resolved to keep his sins, and another is desirous to give them up, the result of the preaching of the Gospel must needs be division. For this the Gospel is not to blame, but the heart of man. There is deep truth in all this, which is constantly forgotten and overlooked. Many talk vaguely about “unity,” “harmony” and “peace” in the church of Christ, as if they were things that we ought always to expect, and for the sake of which everything ought to be sacrificed! Such persons would do well to remember the words of our Lord. No doubt unity and peace are mighty blessings; we ought to seek them, pray for them and give up everything in order to obtain them, excepting truth and a good conscience. But it is an idle dream to suppose that the churches of Christ will enjoy much of unity and peace before the millennium comes. In the second place, our Lord tells us that true Christians must make up their minds to trouble in this world.
The words behind it
20 Greek wordsEvery Greek word of this verse in the order it stands, with what it means and the door to its own study. The last column counts the times a word stands in the whole Bible: the rarer the word, the more the places it appears belong together.
| Greek | Sound | Meaning | Word study | In the Bible |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| ἦλθον | elthon | I came | G2064 → | 628 times |
| γὰρ | gar | for | G1063 → | 1039 times |
| διχάσαι | dichasai | to set at variance | G1369 → | |
| ἄνθρωπον | anthropon | A man | G444 → | 549 times |
| κατὰ | kata | against | G2596 → | 468 times |
| τοῦ | tou | the | G3588 → | 19766 times |
| πατρὸς | patros | father | G3962 → | 410 times |
| αὐτοῦ | autou | of him | G846 → | 5565 times |
| καὶ | kai | and | G2532 → | 9120 times |
| θυγατέρα | thugatera | a daughter | G2364 → | 28 times |
| κατὰ | kata | against | G2596 → | 468 times |
| τῆς | tes | the | G3588 → | 19766 times |
| μητρὸς | metros | mother | G3384 → | 83 times |
| αὐτῆς | autes | of her | G846 → | 5565 times |
| καὶ | kai | and | G2532 → | 9120 times |
| νύμφην | numphen | a daughter-in-law | G3565 → | |
| κατὰ | kata | against | G2596 → | 468 times |
| τῆς | tes | the | G3588 → | 19766 times |
| πενθερᾶς | pentheras | mother-in-law | G3994 → | |
| αὐτῆς· | autes | of her; | G846 → | 5565 times |
ἦλθονI came
elthonG2064 →628 times
γὰρfor
garG1063 →1039 times
διχάσαιto set at variance
dichasaiG1369 →
ἄνθρωπονA man
anthroponG444 →549 times
κατὰagainst
kataG2596 →468 times
τοῦthe
touG3588 →19766 times
πατρὸςfather
patrosG3962 →410 times
αὐτοῦof him
autouG846 →5565 times
καὶand
kaiG2532 →9120 times
θυγατέραa daughter
thugateraG2364 →28 times
κατὰagainst
kataG2596 →468 times
τῆςthe
tesG3588 →19766 times
μητρὸςmother
metrosG3384 →83 times
αὐτῆςof her
autesG846 →5565 times
καὶand
kaiG2532 →9120 times
νύμφηνa daughter-in-law
numphenG3565 →
κατὰagainst
kataG2596 →468 times
τῆςthe
tesG3588 →19766 times
πενθερᾶςmother-in-law
pentherasG3994 →
αὐτῆς·of her;
autesG846 →5565 times
A shaded row is a word that stands 400 times or fewer in the Bible.
The walk
8 stopsEach card is a verse this one points to, and under it the verses that one points to in turn. Where several paths arrive at the same place, that place is listed first: the text keeps returning to it.
Through
Matthew 10:21Brother will betray brother to death, and a father his child; children will rise against their parents and have them put to death.
it leads to
- Micah 7:5–6
Do not rely on a friend; do not trust in a companion. Seal the doors of your mouth from her who lies in your arms.
Reached by 3 separate paths from here.
- Luke 21:16–17
You will be betrayed even by parents and brothers and relatives and friends, and some of you will be put to death.
- Mark 13:12–13
Brother will betray brother to death, and a father his child. Children will rise against their parents and have them put to death.
- Matthew 24:10
At that time many will fall away and will betray and hate one another,
- Luke 12:51–53
Do you think that I have come to bring peace to the earth? No, I tell you, but division.
- Micah 7:5–6
Through
Matthew 24:10At that time many will fall away and will betray and hate one another,
it leads to
- Luke 21:16
You will be betrayed even by parents and brothers and relatives and friends, and some of you will be put to death.
Reached by 2 separate paths from here.
- Mark 13:12
Brother will betray brother to death, and a father his child. Children will rise against their parents and have them put to death.
- Luke 21:16
Through
Mark 13:12Brother will betray brother to death, and a father his child. Children will rise against their parents and have them put to death.
it leads to
- Matthew 10:21
Brother will betray brother to death, and a father his child; children will rise against their parents and have them put to death.
Reached by 2 separate paths from here.
- Matthew 10:21
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This page draws on Adam Clarke, Commentary on the Bible; Augustine of Hippo, Catena Aurea by Aquinas; Eusebius of Emesa, HOMILY 26; Glossa Ordinaria, Catena Aurea by Aquinas; Hilary of Poitiers, Commentary on Matthew 10.24; Hilary of Poitiers, Catena Aurea by Aquinas; J.C. Ryle, Expository Thoughts on the Gospels: Matthew; Jerome, Commentary on Matthew; Jerome, Catena Aurea by Aquinas; John Calvin, Commentary on a Harmony of the Evangelists; John Chrysostom, Homily on the Gospel of Matthew 35; John Gill, Exposition of the New Testament (1746-1748); Matthew Henry, Commentary on the Whole Bible; Theophylact of Ohrid, Commentary on Matthew and Thomas Aquinas, Commentary on Matthew.
