An apostle who asks instead of ordering
Paul states plainly that he could have commanded and then declines to: 'Wherefore, though I have all boldness in Christ to enjoin thee that which is befitting' (1:8), 'yet for love’s sake I rather beseech, being such a one as Paul the aged, and now a prisoner also of Christ Jesus' (1:9). He gives his reason at verse 14, and it turns on the quality of an act done under pressure: 'that thy goodness should not be as of necessity, but of free will' (1:14). A forced kindness would have been a different thing from the kindness he wants. The whole letter is built on that decision. He piles up warm pressure, reminds Philemon of a debt (1:19), and tells him that the church will hear the letter read, and he still leaves the decision in the other man's hands, 'knowing that thou wilt do even beyond what I say' (1:21).
Philemon 1:8 · Philemon 1:9 · Philemon 1:14 · Philemon 1:21

